So, you zone out and fantasize about the day when you can tell your people whatever is on your mind—a time where they have to sit there and take it from you.
Be careful. This fantasy is a subtle trap.
While it is true that you cannot speak your mind without consequences, it is also true that your boss cannot either. When he disallows your opinions and thoughts, he has cut himself off from the very thing he needs. He needs your ideas, your motivation, and your heart.
The Cost of Arrogance
Why would anyone limit himself in such an absurd way?
Maybe he thinks the he already understands what you do. If he did your job before he was promoted to his job, perhaps he thinks that since he had the answers then, he has the answers now. It does not matter that the times may have changed.
Or, perhaps he simply does not value you because he is the superior type. Limiting your input is a less-than-subtle way for him to show you who is boss.
Either approach stems from insecurity.
What other consequences occur when your boss does not make it safe for you to speak up? I would love to hear what you have experienced.
-Darin Gerdes, Ph.D.
November 23, 2012
Dr. Gerdes is the Director of the MBA Program at Charleston Southern University